The question/concern of communication has arisen lately, prompted by my own investigations in to the way in which I interact with the world, and in discussion with friends.
Firstly, I am becoming more and more comfortable, and accepting of my particular mode of relating to the external world. It seems to me that I experience things predominantly through an intuitive awareness of the wider picture and of subtle internal impressions. I also see that this does not exclude focused awareness, it is simply one aspect of the bigger picture. It is within the larger context that these specifics arise. Focus is contained within the broader picture.
And related to that, I am seeing more clearly the way in which I regularly impede, judge, suppress, and neglect what feels most natural to me out of out insecurities related to the way I perceive (most often mistakenly) others perceptions of myself.
As much as we try to do otherwise, we put others in boxes and relate to them accordingly. This tendency is also expressed in putting ourselves in boxes and behaving accordingly or adopting others definitions of ourselves.
Becoming true in our most natural, organic way of being allows us to communicate freely. This is not something that needs to be developed, but something that is revealed when shaken free from uncertainty, a lack of trust, judgementalism, perfectionism, fear of what others think, buying into your own/others narrow definitions, etc.
As for the mode of communication, when trust and humility are present the mode is taken care of. A redefinition of communication is necessary for any harmony to exist between all beings. I am not one to make that definition. It is defined by each individual according what comes most naturally to them, and this definition is experienced, not thought.
Instead of filling the gaps with languaging, find the essence of that which communication arises from. The desire itself to share and harmonise with another is more pure, is more direct, is more clearly intuited by the other then any amount of words that are used in it's service. As I said, communication is an act of sharing, and an act of harmonisation. It is the acknowledgement of "Yes, we are connected. We are completely the same."
For some, when connected to that natural impulse to share and harmonise, words arise on their own. For others, silence is most natural. For others, kinetic movement, tactile sensations, music, sounds, colours, chants, shapes, prayer are the most immediate and true response.
Personally, true communication does not arise out of a train of thought, but is the closest approximation - in the mode that is most natural to me - of what my direct, immediate experience tells me.
If you were to ask me to clarify what I am saying here, I might just contradict myself. It does not seems necessary to me to hang on to a train of thought that has already arisen, turn it into something solid and logical and try to defend it. It has already passed, and the best I can do is speak from my immediate experience that may be something different from that which gave birth to my previous words. (Hence my miniscule collection of posts, and the reason that 50% of it is poetry. I simply find it difficult to gather up a collection of thoughts that really state anything substantial to me. In contrast to that, I am also learning that communication is a free thing, and one should simply throw themselves at it, as a long as one does not get caught up in/or start identifying with it.)
Any questions? :)
For now, I set the intention to trust myself to a greater degree. And more importantly I set the intention to be more receptive, accepting, and accommodating of others modes of communication, and try to whatever degree I can to intuit via mindfulness the ways in which the people I interact with express their natural inclination to share.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
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